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Sunday, November 18, 2012

Are you ready for marriage? How old should you be?

Is there a case for early marriage?  Some think so.  Some think that we as Christians should marry young so that we avoid sin.  I'm sorry, but there doesn't appear to be a real escape hatch for getting away from all sin.  In a rush to marry,  some have made unwise choices.  Perhaps the move to helping teens make wiser choices and scaring them into waiting actually worked.  And some of you may have seen it coming, but in the 1950s someone came up with an Instructional Film on the topic of Marriage...
These instructional videos are nothing short of being both sweet and hilarious.  A window into an earlier time with different fashions, but many other same issues.  In "Are You Ready For Marriage?" a couple delves into the journey of figuring out if they should be married and seek help when their parents are against it.  Actually, they really just want them to wait a little longer.  What's funny about it is that the 1950s hailed a time of fledgling understanding of psychology that comes across as quite amusing, yet somewhat rings true.




At the same time, it is entirely possible that God has called a young couple together so that they can go through life, mature together, and start a family while they were still young.  It isn't the worst thing in the world to not have it all figured out when you get married.  It's possible you can have some very essential skills for keeping your relationship going.

What kicked this all off, it reading both the above article which is called "10 Myths About Getting Married Young" and the confusing article about "The Case For (Early) Marriage" which presents some interesting thoughts about the topic.  Ultimately the real cause for the delay of marriage is that people do not feel ready.  If they do not feel ready they should ultimately not take that step.  I've had a few friends say they felt a need "to work on myself" instead of dating.  That work seems to always be there whether or not one is married.  However, it is a feeling.  If someone feels they can best accomplish that goal, then by all means, they ought to stay single until they figure it out.

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6 comments:

Robin said...

It's the people, not their ages. A number of years does not determine a person's maturity or personality. Believing that a marriage will automatically work because both people are past a certain age is ridiculous.

SavvyD said...

Yeah, but the video was amusing with those charts and graphs.

Single Gal said...

It's hard to say, I suppose, since we're all different.

Some people are too young mentally, but they could be 60 years old. And there are some mature 13 year old's out there.

It's really hard to say which choice is the right one.

SavvyD said...

Maturity at 13 is questionable. It may be a sign of a dour personality. Real maturity takes time and circumstance to mature. I'd have to say though, that there is some truth to that. I'm pretty sure that my fiance was more mature than many boys in some ways, however, he was a bit socially immature. And, yes, some people NEVER learn.

Anonymous said...

The most common source of problems in marriages is that the couple misinterpreted their mutual feelings of attraction as love. This normally results in the couple trying to keep up appearances after about 5 years, and wondering where the love went.

It is important to know that attraction is an emotional feeling that may fade, while love is a promise that has little to do with attraction. If you are thinking of getting married, then please read "Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise." by Grenville Phillips, president of Walbrent College.

SavvyD said...

This sounds intriguing, however, I can't find it anywhere.