I have been a Christian for a very long time. And I am also rather strong-willed. So I resent these articles that tell you all the things you shouldn't ever do. Boundless did it again with the article, Can I Just Plain Kiss Her? In my opinion, yes, you can.
That being said, if you choose to wait until you are at the altar. Good for you. It can increase the anticipation level and be very romantic to do so. But this neither affair-proofs your marriage nor necessarily guards your heart.
You see, emotionally speaking, you can be very attached to someone and love them deeply even if you never touched or so much as held hands. Some people feel that they are "more involved" when they are "blinded" by the physical aspect of the relationship. But that just isn't true for everyone.
I had to laugh at this comment because it oversexualizes the truth. Not every kiss leads to sex - this is something that so many inexperienced people are mislead about. When a pastor in the article says something about kissing, it makes the nice, concerned, and slightly neurotic even more worried. "When you kiss a woman, particularly if you are kissing her on the mouth, if you are kissing her for any extended period of time, things ... start happening in her body to prepare her to receive you sexually. There it is. That comes from kissing. That happens because God made it that way. And so we just know. You don't need a pastor to tell you what's sexual and what's not sexual activity. You know. Your body tells you."
I suppose if you are raised in an environment where parents aren't very affectionate, and you aren't allowed to touch, hug, or hold hands, touch has a tendency to be oversexualized. In Europe, people have a less restrictive view of touching and kissing. That's not to say that people don't misbehave, but honestly its the American guys who usually misbehave in that context. They take advantage of the custom and want to kiss all the girls.
Sometimes a kiss is just a greeting when someone walks through the door.
OK, seriously, I'm going to have to tell you more about my fiance. I just haven't been in much of a writing mood. Sorry to disappoint. This blog has been way fun and very meaningful.
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