Just because a guy has been nice to the women who he has liked and haven't liked him back doesn't mean a guy is actually a nice guy. Just because a girl says a guys is really nice but she doesn't like him like that still doesn't mean he's actually a nice guy. Some alleged nice guys sound sound bitter and angry - those aren't true "nice guy" qualities.
But if you really are a nice guy, this advice will help you avoid the "nice guy" traps...
- Ask someone out. If she says yes, go out. Observe her behavior. If you have a good time, ask her out again. If you don't don't. Repeat. Do it with the idea of a probationary period and don't let your feelings get the best of you.
- Don't rush into making a commitment. Give yourself space to do your own thing, but call when you say you will call and honor your commitments. This isn't a "game" and it isn't to "keep her on her toes" this is FOR YOU. This is what I do as a female.
- If girls are falling for "bad boys" they are immature and possibly young, but the one thing some of these "bad boys" have that "nice guys" don't is a certain level of social ease. Date women of various ages. Older might be better or at least more mature.
- Put some of your emotional chips into your career. Often men find satisfaction and confidence from having a solid career.
- Up your confidence level through good grooming and sharp dressing. It will make you more attractive because you look better and feel more confident.
- Plan dates that you like, take her to restaurants that you like, and see how she responds. Does she complain about everything? Does she have opinions? Do really like listening to what she says? This will let you know if you have anything in common. My current boyfriend loves art, art films, martial arts, antiquing, and music. He has taken me to see martial arts films - which I like.
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