Finally, an article in Relevant that makes sense. Pastor Timothy Keller heads up a very large congregation of mostly single people in New York. Apparently, New Yorkers are the pickiest people in the world when it comes to dating. I was there for 2 years and had a succession of dates with some very picky people. But, in truth, there are picky people everywhere.
There are picky people in church sitting right next to you who will not pick you for their own picky reasons. They won't pick anyone else either. And perhaps church has taught us to be pickier in hopes of creating perfect marriages which stay together perfectly, produce perfect children who grow into perfect examples of Christ and make perfect converts out of all they meet - and so on.
Keller hits the nail on the head when he says in years past that there was less emphasis on finding a perfect soul mate and more on making things work out. Yes, there were bad marriages and people were unhappy. It was a common practice in our history for a man to have a wife to have his children and a mistress who he loved for completely different reasons. Divorce was the greater scandal at that time. But now it seems that people attribute the ideal of finding the perfect person as the solution to making them behave perfectly in a relationship. Men and women are equally guilty.
Finally, I think someone may have written a book about marriage worth reading. Way to go, Tim! (I met him once and he said I could call him Tim. Someone in New York actually got mad at me after having called him Pastor Keller and giving me the "what gives you the right" speech.)
But before a date, you should still make sure to wash your elbows, seriously! ;)
check out the article.
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