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Saturday, December 8, 2012

Christmas with a boyfriend or fiance - oh the dramedy!

Things have changed for me a great deal in the past year.  I got engaged in June.  And I really thought it was no big deal only now I had a ring.  And of course all that dating around and wishing to have someone special is now over.  Well, I was wrong.  It's very different!!

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Are you ready for marriage? How old should you be?

Is there a case for early marriage?  Some think so.  Some think that we as Christians should marry young so that we avoid sin.  I'm sorry, but there doesn't appear to be a real escape hatch for getting away from all sin.  In a rush to marry,  some have made unwise choices.  Perhaps the move to helping teens make wiser choices and scaring them into waiting actually worked.  And some of you may have seen it coming, but in the 1950s someone came up with an Instructional Film on the topic of Marriage...

Election fighting went too far - will relationships be repaired?

This election seemed to bring out the worst in many people.  I had some personal run-ins with people that now make me uncomfortable with them.  It is one thing to hold beliefs and opinions about politics.  It is another entirely to run over your husband because he didn't vote, or to leave a dead pig in Romney's campaign headquarters.  My own experiences dealt with a former boyfriend posting, "Whoever voted for Obama can unfriend me."  Many people began question the faith of anyone who could support the other candidate.  Others posted references to Obama 2016 as if it were the definitive word on the President rather than someone's propaganda.  In other situations, Black people were disowned by their families when they voted for Romney.  And another friend of mine sent me mean emails about my choice and my fact-checking and my assertion that Obama is a Christian.  I can't look at him the same because of it.  Here is our conversation...

Friday, November 16, 2012

This isn't my idea of pro-life!

The world is ablaze over this.  Rather than a freak situation, this one where the life of the mother could have been saved.  This is what should have been an exception.  31 year old Savita Halappanavar's water broke when she was 17 weeks pregnant.  The fetus was not viable.  It lived for a few more days until it's heart stopped.  Savita was suffering from an infection which caused the miscarriage.  There was nothing to be done for the fetus.  If her body had expelled the fetus, perhaps she could have been saved.  But that's not what happened.  Doctors waited until the fetal heartbeat stopped to treat the Savita's infection.  The sad thing is that Ireland does actually allow for abortions when the life of the mother was in danger.  But even though that phrase is present in the law, that doesn't mean anyone believes that a mother's life is ever in danger.  It appears they didn't think Savita was in any danger.  And it appears they were wrong.

Savita had a heartbeat, too!

They won't just go home...

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Paul Ryan, the Republicans. and the Tea Party want to lead us to ruin

Lately people have been talking a great deal about personal freedom, liberty, and individual achievement.  I'm starting to question this philosophy.  Big business hurts the little guy.  It hurts you if you take a job at a Walmart or similar business.  It hurts small businesses.  It hurts the majority of Americans who can't get anything better because of where they live.  Aren't you wondering why bankers got bailouts and bonuses when you can't even get your house refinanced? When you lost your house and had to move into an apartment?

Walmart Black Friday commercials feature Satanic music by AC/DC

For those about the SHOP, we salute you!  You've been sold a bill of goods that Walmart is a Christian company which espouses Christian values.  They won't carry certain items in their store because of their values, etc.  I actually can't find very much to indicate that they are much in the way of Christian, it's more likely that they have exploited a certain image while they were exploiting kids in sweatshops.  But I can tell you that when it came to picking an exciting song for their commercial, they went with AC/DC's "Back In Black."

You know this band, right?  They are the band with some other great songs:  "Big Balls," "Dirty Deeds (Done Dirt Cheap)," "You Shook Me All Night Long," "Hells Bells,"and the great classicas, "Highway to Hell" and "For Those About To Rock (We Salute You)."  Lots of Christians probably won't recognize those chords and the flourish on the guitar, but I sure did.  My brother loved AC/DC and he would make me listen with him.  I'm hard pressed to say that I didn't enjoy singing along sometimes.

Please check out the commercial and the video.  I get it on a very basic level.  They are "Back In Black." for Black Friday.  And in fact, if they weren't allowing and encouraging the image of the themselves as Christian company I wouldn't mind it in the least.  In fact, you could say that AC/DC did pretty much the same thing, allowing and encouraging an image that they were somehow in league with the devil because it sold more records.  In other words, I don't actually think they are Satanic.  But it's something for you who ARE bothered by it to know the truth and a make a decision about where to shop based on that. 

Here is a link to an ACDC video "Back In Black" with "Highway to Hell."

In case you want to give them a piece of your mind, I found the corporate complaints form online.  It says,  "Walmart is committed to providing you superior customer service and a pleasant shopping experience."  Really?  I don't think so, therefore I don't shop there.

And just so you know, AC/DC's fans don't like that the band licensed their song to Walmart.  They also aren't very happy that AC/DC's "Black Ice" album from 2008 was sold exclusively through Walmart.

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Monday, November 12, 2012

How to Get More Dates!!

I couldn't get enough of these instructional videos!

Remember this is from the 1940s!!  Do find Kay too forward?  What do you do to get through a "dating slump"?

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Are you popular?

While some people decry this level of social conformity to be a bit much, we'd all be better off if some of us were a bit nicer to each other.  Coronet Instructional films came from the Family Life Institute of The University of Oklahoma.  I love their outfits and the archaic slang.  And of course, the VOICE OF WISDOM over the top of it all.  Carolyn wins the date, follows the rules, and politely expects the same of others.  It's sort of campy, but kind of cute.  And of course, follows parental expectations that you not hang out on the phone for hours!  It's really another "Dating Dos And Donts" kind of video.

Dating: Dos and Don'ts

Back in the 1940s when this gem of a film was made, people weren't told not to date.  And some brilliant company, Coronet Instructional Films, made just that.  Instructional films about morality, behaviors, and getting along with people.  It seems like an idyllic "Leave It To Beaver" world.  In some ways it sure would be nice if people still dated like this or thought these thing through before going on a date.  Enjoy!!
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Words of Wisdom from Dear Abby

I don't usually read Dear Abby, however, this answer proved to be very insightful.  Some men are absolutely mystified as to why a woman they treat well doesn't respond in kind.  Do not waste time with these women.  Find one who does appreciate being treated well.  If you find yourself clinging to someone who doesn't want you, this is on you.

DEAR ABBY: Can a man be too good to a woman?

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Obama is Christian, this is the final word.

Friends, I've had it up to here. I've not always been Obama's biggest fan, but I'm tired of the vicious rumors and speculation which Obama has faced throughout his presidency. Obama is Christian. Get over it now.

Friday, October 26, 2012

This isn't a game of Battleship

Why can't we all get along? Republicans and democrats are at each others' throats.  I think it's worse this election than in years past.  There are those who think Obama is on the side of God, and those who think it is Mitt.  I have lost respect for so many people this time around.  Have you?  I have voted Republican, and I have voted Democrat in years past.  Have you?  Why does this election feel different?

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Don't trust Whole Foods Market to keep you safe and healthy!

In fact, the biggest market known for selling organic goods (at high prices) is also a major seller of genetically modified foods. We don't call them Whole Paycheck for nothing!! I myself was alarmed when I discovered that not everything at Whole Foods is organic. I asked and was told that some foods are just "natural." The "natural" label doesn't mean anything at all. Whole Foods finally endorsed Prop 37 on September 11th of 2012, but donated nothing to the fund. However, the real players in the organic world have donated significant sums.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Just say no to Genetically Modified Food!!! We need to take care of God's creation.

I'm aware that the majority of my readers do not come from California. But there is something close to my heart which I feel is important. That is that all of our food should be labeled to state whether or not it is genetically modified.

Right now Prop 37 proposes that food be labelled.  It doesn't seem like this will really put out food manufacturers.  In fact it might mean that they will stop using genetically modified ingredients if it threatens their sales.  They redesign labels all the time to make changed far more vapid and unimportant than this.

Quite frankly, farmers are working harder and making less money. Part of the reason is that these genetically modified crops do not deliver as promised.  Farmers are not allowed to save seeds for the next year's crop and must purchase seeds from the manufacturer.  Obviously, they are selling farmers on the "latest technology," forcing them to sign contracts, and then charging them a relatively insane amount compared to saving seeds (which was free except for the labor.)

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

"It's not my fault I'm pretty, please leave me alone, I am reading"

Recently, Unwinona blogged about repeated harassment on public transportation and stated that she thinks it's because she's pretty. In reflecting on my own experiences taking the train, I decided to compose my two cents in reponse. Apparently this girl started quite the firestorm of controversy webwide among feminists and chauvanists. I'm going to get to the heart of the matter, and it's not pretty for either side.

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Go ahead and kiss already

I have been a Christian for a very long time. And I am also rather strong-willed. So I resent these articles that tell you all the things you shouldn't ever do. Boundless did it again with the article, Can I Just Plain Kiss Her? In my opinion, yes, you can.

Successful at everything but relationships??? What would Kate Middleton say?

Life sometimes sucks. Yep, there, I said it. But I hate to tell all of you that the problem is not your success that is driving men away. This is my response to some Boundless articles. Successful at Everything But Relationships and Hyper-Achieving Woman, Underachieving Man

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Why men don't say I love you

One of the things a cousin of mine asked me recently about my boyfriend was, "Do you guys say you love each other?"

Suddenly I started to feel a little bit bad where I hadn't before. We don't.

And then I began to wonder why we don't.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Be glad you aren't a Saudi female, you're more feminist that you thought

We all sort of knew that things like this were still going on in the world. But perhaps it just didn't register how deep the well truly is. It's not just Saudi culture, but it's Muslin culture. Wearing a burka is not the most burdensome thing about being a Muslim female. It's a general culture of not allowing women to do or be anything at all.

You may not be a big feminist or anything, but it's possible you take for granted the many freedoms we truly have in the United States and Canada.

What is outrageous about the birth control debate

It takes two to tango. This article titled "Men Have Sex Too" makes a very good point.

If men feel they have to control women’s bodies, they could first start with controlling their own. And the legislators who want to mandate vaginal ultrasound probes for women choosing abortions would do well to reflect on what else is going into women’s bodies. The hypocrisy of singling out women is blood boiling.

Read more: http://ideas.time.com/2012/03/05/men-have-sex-too/#ixzz1oNNTVAgj

What do you think?

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Birth control is more than just a religious issue, so say the VEGANS

Now this started to get me thinking. People have more reasons than religion for being against birth control methods. Those wacky vegans! You may not agree with them at all, but they have their reasons for the things that they do. They really love animals and don't believe in animal testing or animal products being injested or worn - and that includes condoms and birth control.

Since they are against animal testing, they aren't going to be into many of the birth control methods that others might accept. But did you know they have an issue with condoms?? Apparently, some condoms are made with a milk protein called casein. And vegans are against that.

It's interesting because it's one more chip in the debate about birth control and acceptable methods. Read more on on About.com Vegan condoms?

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Birth control debate rages on

Unless you've been hiding under a rock, you know that there's been a debate about birth control being a part of healt care plans. And the Catholic church has a problem with providing birth control through heath care plans as do their hospitals. What is a real moral and ethical dilemma for Catholic Church leadership is not being protrayed with the care and concern.

There is a real question for some other kinds of organizations which are Catholic-run, such as hospitals which do not qualify as religious organizations.

I sent this letter to someone about it. I'm not sure he will get it. Tell me if you think it sounds logical:

Monday, February 6, 2012

Mom weighs in on men's table manners - "It's a man thing"

I told my mom about my concern that here is this otherwise great professional man I am going out with who eats like a pig. And then she said, "It's a man thing."
Huh? Oh? Just a man thing? Yes, it's just a man thing. "But I know some men who are really good abut this."

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Oh no! He’s a slow bro! What’s a girl to do?

You’ve all seen them at church - those guys who no one can figure out why they are single. They have good jobs. They have social skills. They plan events. But they don’t date. At all.

Thursday, February 2, 2012

How to avoid the "nice guy" trap

I've heard many complaints from so-called "nice guys." One alleged nice guy said he didn't start getting attention from women until he started acting like a jerk (Astro). Well, I dumped him because he was a jerk and I don't date jerks.    He still thinks he's a nice guy, but in truth he wasn't.

Just because a guy has been nice to the women who he has liked and haven't liked him back doesn't mean a guy is actually a nice guy. Just because a girl says a guys is really nice but she doesn't like him like that still doesn't mean he's actually a nice guy.  Some alleged nice guys sound sound bitter and angry - those aren't true "nice guy" qualities.

But if you really are a nice guy, this advice will help you avoid the "nice guy" traps...

Monday, January 30, 2012

Hey Boundless - stop defrauding us about dating

You knew it had to happen occasionally.  Boundless is so busy pushing their idea of "Biblical Dating" that they have taken a scripture out of context, changed its meaning, and used it to support their ideals whether it actually fits or not.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Marriage is not a group activity, why spending time alone is wise before you tie the knot

So-called "Biblical Dating" or "Courtship" models of premarital relationships are intended to maintain the sexual purity of a couple. If you aren't familiar with it, the general idea is:

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

The Art of Obvious Advertising

Since Americans seems obsessed with reality shows, the answer has become what else but MORE REALITY SHOWS!

Some of the more annoying entries for me have been "The Revolution" and Live Big with Allie Vincent.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Boundless - Take responsibilty for your dating life, the third option

As a thinking urbanite, I find quite a bit of Boundless's articles to be frustrating. And so it goes for Biblical Dating: An Introduction by Scott Croft.

The way the article is written makes it seem that there is nothing in between so-called "Biblical Dating" and "Modern Dating." Boundless tries to make it seem that focusing on courtship under the careful supervision of Mom, Dad, and pastoral staff is the only way to fly. There is alot of ground in between the two.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Bachelorette Shawntel Newton discusses faith, dating, and why grief is good

Shawntel Newton became my favorite bachelorette immediately. Her quirky career choice of being a funeral director and mortician meant that finding love with bachelor Brad might be a challenge. Lying on an enbalming table proved to be too much for Brad and Shawntel was eliminated at the rose ceremony. I suspected that they kept her around purely for casting reasons. That still has to be the most memorable hometown date ever seen on ABC's The Bachelor.

It was a delight to see her again making a bid to steal the heart of Bachelor Ben on Monday evening's The Bachelor. I certainly hope that Ben will be able to see how catty all of these women are and not pick any of them. They were horribly mean to Shawntel. If I had been on that show, I certainly would have welcomed her. I would have wanted to have her in the house with me to hang out with. The likelihood of people actually finding real, lasting love is very low anyway, why not share???

In this article on www.TheOliveTee.com, Shawntel dishes about her deep faith in Christ. I love hearing about how she feels that being a funeral director in the family business is a ministry. I'm certain you will agree that she is a beauty both inside and out.

I'm going to give you a very special spoiler. Shawntel moved on very well from Ben's rejection. She finished a book and found love! Plus, she is also the model for the Olivetee T-shirt line. Please have a read about this very special woman of God

Exclusive Interview with Shawntel Newton - Jesus and The Bachelor

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Monday, January 16, 2012

A boyfriend or girlfriend for the holidays

Some of you are, no doubt, still recovering from the holiday stress. Certainly more than a few of you found yourselves at the dinner table thinking, "Where is my significant other? When will I meet this person? When will those annoying questions stop????" You have been asking yourself these same questions, but when mom, grandma, uncles, aunts, and various other family members ask, "How about YOU??? Are you dating anyone yet?" *SHUDDER*

Well, I don't mean to stress you out any more than you already have been, but when you have been single for a significant period of time and you join your life with another person who has been single a significant period of time, it may not be as smooth as you think...

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Relevant "You Never Marry the Right Person" by Timothy Keller

Finally, an article in Relevant that makes sense. Pastor Timothy Keller heads up a very large congregation of mostly single people in New York. Apparently, New Yorkers are the pickiest people in the world when it comes to dating. I was there for 2 years and had a succession of dates with some very picky people. But, in truth, there are picky people everywhere.