Anon #10 (at 44) "the law of chastity can and does protect us from harmful and unhealthy relationships. However, it does so in the same way that abstaining from eating food will protect us from food poisoning, or abstaining from ever leaving our houses will protect us from drive-by shootings."
To Anon #10
--Abstaining from food and abstaining from sex are not the same thing at all except in this:
Eat healthy food that tastes good to you. Eat fruits and vegetables. Avoid junk food.
Have healthy sex with people who you feel you can trust and who care about you. If that takes marriage, it's what you need. If that takes engagement, it's what you need. If it takes a commitment first, it's what you need. (The Christian ideal is still to wait until marriage.)
If someone doesn't care about your commitment needs now, they aren't going to care about those needs when you are in a more serious relationship/married. Sex is not a magic bullet that makes someone behave and treat you with respect. If that were true, no one would ever cheat, no one would ever beat their spouses, etc.
As quality relationships become harder to find, people move sex farther up on the chain of importance as they aren't sure when they will get it again. Instead of lovers who love and make love, we have "friends with benefits" and "fuck buddies"--no relationship required. If I can't be married, can't I at least have a lover who loves me, cares for me, and is committed to me? Not even that can be found nowadays.
Instead of being more satisfying sex and truly communicating with someone, it's like a bag of chips you grab when you are hungry. Maybe you can get away with it a few times, but it's ultimately unsatisfying and unhealthy. The end result of fast food eating: obesity and heart attacks. The end result of sex with the wrong person in the wrong kind of relationship? LEGION.
The only thing that could make that kind of fast food sex satisfying is to have a story to tell--doing it with a favorite rock star, extremely wealthy person, actor, public figure, politician,sports star.
PS Maybe you don't live near where there are driveby shootings, but I do. You can be shot in your house. In other words, there are errors in your arguments.
The New York Times is talking about celibacy and singleness. Why are we having such a hard time?
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