Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from the ones that don’t give you everything you need. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.
"everything you need"
Whoever expects a relationship will "give you everything you need" really needs to learn that relationships are about giving to each other. Not only that, this person recommends just "walking away."
Looking at this in the context with the next sentence, it becomes even more alarming. "Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without."
I'm not with this person at ALL. Most of my life, I've been walking away from relationships where the man was clearly NOT good enough. He didn't call when he said he would, he spoke about me negatively, he spoke about intimate details of our relationship with his friends, his friends made me very uncomfortable, he was mean, he hated women, he spoke negatively about an ex.
Quite frankly, when a friend of mine left her "good enough" boyfriend, everyone was upset with her. She explained it this way, "He wants to get married, but I just think that marriage should make you want to be a better person." I think she was being unrealistic. She dumped a great guy, the kind who I wished liked me. Will she regret breaking up with Mr. Good Enough while searching for Mr. Can't-live-without?
You can actually live without just about everybody. I've never met a man who I couldn't walk away from. But then, I've also not dated anyone where the interest was mutual who I considered good enough. And by good enough enough, I mean they must treat you right. Good on paper is not good enough if he can't treat you right. She goes on to mention being with the "wrong person." If they are the "wrong person" perhaps it might have been better to say that they are "NOT good enough."
The good enough guys are there but, I guess they don't think I'm good enough. Either that or I'm only good enough while they are chasing their pipe dreams and "can't-live-withouts." I'm a 6 and they want a 10. I think one day this generation will sincerely regret their stupidity.
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