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Sunday, January 30, 2011

Save lots of money with this Cashback program

Alright people, why are you waiting?  I, the smart recessionista, am saving money by joining this program and getting Cashback on purchases with legit websites.  If you tried Bing Cashback and loved it, this is the same idea.

I got a great deal on contact lenses, shopping for whatever things you might shop for online.  Even ebay.

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Monday, January 24, 2011

Love does not conquer all, 7 compatibility areas to consider

Looks like the world is teaching the same things us Christians have known about all along. Religious differences are a part of long-term incompatibility.

Dating experts outline seven match areas to consider:

1. Physical appearance (duh! But that's just one of seven...)
While physical appearance and attraction draw two people together at first, these aspects will affect the rest of their lives. If working out and staying fit is important to you, will it bum you out if your mate doesn’t share your quest for rock-hard abs? (Seriously, it's like favorite bands for me.)

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Let's talk about being Celibate in the City

Does being celibate keep you from harm or harm your potential to have relationships? Let's talk. I had to make my post a blog entry because it was getting really long.
Anon #10 (at 44) "the law of chastity can and does protect us from harmful and unhealthy relationships. However, it does so in the same way that abstaining from eating food will protect us from food poisoning, or abstaining from ever leaving our houses will protect us from drive-by shootings."

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Celibate In The City: The singleness problem cuts across all denominations

One of the blogs I follow is called Celibate In The City, a blog about the trials and tribulations of a single Mormon girl. Apparently they have the same problems in the Mormon Church that the rest of us Protestants have been complaining about.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Balls and Chains: The Violent Femmes' Gordon Gano makes a decent proposal

Gordon Gano with the Femmes. 
I've mentioned Violent Femmes before.  And here I bring you a short treatise on marriage written by Gordon Gano, lead singer of Violent Femmes.  I couldn't help laughing at a few things. He has since divorced, which is unfortunate. He's the short, dorky but cute one on the left. -Savvy

First, a disclaimer: Anything that can be construed as advice in this article will be bad advice. Anything that can be taken as a truth will be a bad truth. I hope I can slip in some lies, but I can't promise that I'll succeed. And I'll write about marriage without once mentioning the word "love."

Men are jerks.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, Proverbs 13:12

I imagine the heart becomes even sicker when it fears that desire will never come to pass. Here is the verse in a few different translations with commentary. I enjoy the different shades of meaning which come from slightly different translations.

New International Version (©1984)
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

New Living Translation (©2007)
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.

King James Bible
Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but [when] the desire cometh, [it is] a tree of life.

Unbelievable love story in a totally bad way

I'm single. You know that. I hold to the idea that God has someone for me and when I marry that person I make a lifetime commitment to them. I would not betray my spouse. I would not run off with another even if I thought they were even better for me. What this couple did is just plain wrong on so many levels.

It's one thing to leave your spouse for another (bad), but to leave your spouse and have an article written about it...evil. For that article...

Monday, January 10, 2011

Earn some cashback while shopping online

Finally something LEGIT! Remember how Bing Cashback gave actual cashback for purchases online and put real money into your Paypal account? Finally I found someone who made something legit and am asking you to check it out. No spam involved. I've got big bucks coming my way from buying a printer online at Office Depot and then picking it up in the store. Just check it out with no obligation.


Friday, January 7, 2011

Sick (again/still)

My cough is coming back. I've been sick for about a month and this is killing me. 3 rounds of antibiotics and here we go again. Last we I caught a stomach virus. I've already been feeling a little depressed. This just makes it worse.

Don't know about you, but I've been doubting the Lord in all things. Seems like nothing is quite right and most of my prayers go unanswered. Someone told me I should join their church because their pastor is anointed and God will work a miracle. Sounds like a line. I've been through that before.

God can't work whereever you are? And if he can work where ever you are, why does it seem like he doesn't?

What keeps you going when you feel that way?

Rude people

I had dinner with someone I didn't know so that I would have company for a mystery shop. I do that on occasion. I did mention some of my frustrations about dating. But then left them behind. After dinner we sat at the bar and I ended up talking a bit to a man who sat next to us. I teased him about about having had to move my designer purse for him to have a seat and that my purse felt like it deserved its own seat. It was amusing, but that is all. I know how a man behaves if he is interested, and he wasn't. He was fun to talk to just a little. Before you start judging, the bar visit was part of the shop. Then...

Last night I dreamt somebody loved me

Monday, January 3, 2011

Ir-Relevant Magazine strikes again on dating

I'd really like to know what the person who wrote/condensed (Shauna Niequist from her book Bittersweet) this article was THINIKING. I mean, really??


Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from the ones that don’t give you everything you need. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.

"everything you need"
Whoever expects a relationship will "give you everything you need" really needs to learn that relationships are about giving to each other. Not only that, this person recommends just "walking away."

Looking at this in the context with the next sentence, it becomes even more alarming. "Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without."

I'm not with this person at ALL. Most of my life, I've been walking away from relationships where the man was clearly NOT good enough. He didn't call when he said he would, he spoke about me negatively, he spoke about intimate details of our relationship with his friends, his friends made me very uncomfortable, he was mean, he hated women, he spoke negatively about an ex.

Quite frankly, when a friend of mine left her "good enough" boyfriend, everyone was upset with her. She explained it this way, "He wants to get married, but I just think that marriage should make you want to be a better person." I think she was being unrealistic. She dumped a great guy, the kind who I wished liked me. Will she regret breaking up with Mr. Good Enough while searching for Mr. Can't-live-without?

You can actually live without just about everybody. I've never met a man who I couldn't walk away from. But then, I've also not dated anyone where the interest was mutual who I considered good enough. And by good enough enough, I mean they must treat you right. Good on paper is not good enough if he can't treat you right. She goes on to mention being with the "wrong person." If they are the "wrong person" perhaps it might have been better to say that they are "NOT good enough."

The good enough guys are there but, I guess they don't think I'm good enough. Either that or I'm only good enough while they are chasing their pipe dreams and "can't-live-withouts." I'm a 6 and they want a 10. I think one day this generation will sincerely regret their stupidity.

You may read their tripe here.

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Sunday, January 2, 2011

Honest talk about being single

Some Facebook friends decided to start a group encouraging people to date and someone started a discussion about dating. I'm in! (Names have been deleted to protect the wide-eyed innocents, semi-innocent, and completely guilty. The last comment is, of course, mine as were a few others. :)  Can you tell which ones?

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