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Sunday, December 25, 2011

Atheist seeks recognition to organize?

I don't agree with someone being subjected to being ridiculed for their lack of faith. But I find it distressing that this young atheist responded "no" when asked if he felt his life has a lasting purpose.

Dear Atheists in Santa Monica...

Atheists in Santa Monica, CA decided to protest the use of public space for religious displays. Atheists entered the lottery for spaces and filled the spaces with NOTHING.

Do holiday displays get you all riled up? Honestly, I find the over-commercialization of the holiday to be quite irritating. I mean, people camp put for days to get ridiculous door-buster specials.

Here's the rub: the Constitution doesn't guarantee freedom from any mention of religion. The public pay taxes and the public sometimes happen to be Christians.

I really don't see how a few nativity scenes and a Hannukah display force you to practice religion or establish anything other than religion exists. And a few empty spaces won't stop me from practicing mine.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

High stress mess

I don't know about you guys, but I have a hard time keeping things neat when I get stressed out. Right now I have piles of papers that I must organize, unfinished projects, and laundry on my bed. Yet, here I am, writing another note about it. I'm hoping that writing it down will help remind me to dig in to it. But then, maybe, sometimes it's ok to let the mess be for a bit and rest. Sometimes other things really are a priority. Hopefully you won't see me on Hoarders! I think over the holidays, I will try to get all of this crazy stuff done which has been waiting for me. I haven't watched Hoarders in awhile, maybe that will inspire me to get some things done...

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Friday, December 9, 2011

Do you wear the pants in the relationship?

Sometimes I think I have the most ridiculous friends. Thanks to Facebook, my friends have finally caught on to the fact that I have a real boyfriend. Well, for awhile there was something of a joke. At a recent Christmas party one of my friends asked,

Friend: So, tell me. Do you wear the pants in the relationship?
Savvy: Whaaaaaat? No.
Friend: Are you sure.
Savvy: OMG. Yes, I'm sure. What a weird question.
Friend: Well, it's just that you're really outspoken.
Savvy: So? My boyfriend likes that about me.
Friend: Yeah, but do tell him what to do, and stuff?
Savvy: This may come as a shock to you, but no.

I'm mystified by my reputation

Why women play with their hair

It's out there.  The recent investment bankers letter for a second date posted to Reddit even referred to the myth.  You've been told that a woman playing with her hair is a sign of flirting. It's happened to me. I was on a date with a man and I was playing with my hair.

He: I've heard that a woman playing with her hair is a sign of flirting.
Me: Umm. Oh. I've never heard that before.

Reaction? Immediately stopped playing with hair.

Note to self- do not play with hair on dates with men I haven't met.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Sometimes relationships can suck for stupid reasons

So, I have a boyfriend. At least it seems like i have a boyfriend some of the time. He went away for Thanksgiving and came back on Sunday. We have only talked on the phone for 7 minutes this week.

The Pickup Artists from Simple Pickups

Are they cool or are they cads? "I've always dreamt of helping people. We're less than average guys."

Well, they've done it all. They have dressed as Super Mario, the Tooth Fairy, and the Statue of Liberty and still scored numbers. They have picked up on girls as they sat in wheelchairs. For what? To show that anyone can pick up girls.

How does it work? check out this full article from ABC's Nightline. And this video.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Health Concerns - living life unsalted

Hey everyone,
I don't know how you feel about doctors, but lately my opinion has changed. Basically, I don't want to see a doctor unless I'm dying. I sincerely believe that we need less doctoring and more prevention.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Internet fraud hits a new low - music lesson fraud

One of the things I can do for work is teach music lessons. I have not been able to sustain a studio because I didn't have a place to teach lessons. I now have a place.

It started out normally enough. I got an email from a woman named Rose Magreth who wanted me to teach her daughter a series of lessons while she visited the US and then joined her in Frankfurt. She wanted to know what I could teach, how often, and seemed to be satisfied. It seemed OK.

And then it got weird.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Foreign women for love (or just your money and citizenship)?

It's clear that the guy in this video is a hopeless romantic looking for love. I'm stymied as to why he wouldn't be able to find someone nice-unless he's looking for someone much younger, something which many younger girls don't want.  He's twice divorced and has two kids.  Is he a closet asshole?  Inflexible?  Does he steal all the sheets?  I almost want to go out with him just to find out.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

HOARDERS (I will not hoard, I will not hoard, I will not hoard.)

I've had some personal issues with stress-related illness and injuries. I got really behind on chores at home. I also ended up doing a bit of compulsive shopping which seemed to make me feel better in some ways, but worse in others - like when I got the bill. In any case, I ended up with way too much stuff...

Sunday, August 28, 2011

manese - what he means by maybe

For those who feel a bit lost diciphering what men mean when they say certain things, here's a clue. Men usually mean what they say and say what they mean. The problem is that women often feel frustrated because they don't hear all of what the man said. They then assume that Manese is an impossible language to understand. It's really quite simple.

This applies to men of all faiths in English-speaking countries. This is one of those practical aspects of relationships which all women ought to know.

He says: maybe we can do something on Sunday.
She hears: let's do something on Sunday.

He says: I'll maybe give you a call on Tuesday.
She hears: I'll give you a call on Tuesday.

In written form, it's easy to point out the qualifier here is the word "maybe". Don't let wishful thinking get the best of you. Maybe means maybe yes, sure. But it also means maybe no. It basically means nothing. When a meteorologist says there's a 50% chance of rain, its about the same as a man saying maybe.

So if a man says maybe, listen carefully and just do your own thing. If a definite plan comes your way, go with it.

Other meaningless phrases to watch for:
We'll have to go there sometime.
We'll have to do xxx..
I'll have to take you...

I'm sure you are wondering why a Christian man might talk this way - or any man for that matter.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Social Kissing for Christian Dummies

Gimmie that Christian side hug? I think not. And I think it's one of the most ridiculous Christian conventions seen in modern times. It's a matter of social customs. If you were raised with social kissing being acceptable, it's a bit difficult to understand the Christian taboo. Americans in general tend to shake hands. But, perhaps it's time to accept that you might run into these social customs and learn how to handle them with grace rather than a horried "I only side hug"expression.

When people are not familiar with the custom of social kissing, their fears and apprehensions about what kissing means become unrealistic. Perhaps they fear it will look like this purposely scandalous video. I'm sure you can see that there is a difference.

Table Manners - Emily Post is after us all!

If you are confused by table manners, the standards have not changed. Notice, there was no texting or tweeting back then. There should not be now. This video covers every course from soup to dessert. It's the difference between grace and lackthereof, between getting a second date and never seeing someone again.

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Practical aspects of dating and courtship - table manners and the man

In the Christian world, there is an amazing amount of emphasis placed on the spiritual aspect of a relationship. While that is all well and good, it's not enough to make a relationship successful. It's important to have someone who respects your spiritual life. But I have seen many a Christian couple deal with issues which no one seemed to think were as important as they are.

I'm talking about pet peeves...

How to drop a hint so a man asks you out

I went to a going away party for an old boyfriend of mine who somehow got involved with a group that sings sea shantys. Some of them were a bit salacious, but it was all in fun. At one point, one of the guys came up to me...

Friday, July 22, 2011

Why getting along with Muslims can be a bit tough

There was recently an explosion in Oslo, Norway. Terrorism is rampant everywhere. But there is a reason why we just can't get along.

True, many are peaceful. They also probably don't take their religion as seriously as those who act on these verses...

Gonorrhea becoming incurable!

It was bound to happen. Many people nowadays think that everything can be cured with a pill. It's time to wake up and smell the coffee. Organisms like bacteria and viruses mutate over time. After a round of antibiotics, people are often left with a few that just won't die. Doses that were once effective are now not enough.

It's time to start thinking reality. Abstinence is truly best. It's truly best to wait until marriage. It's the way were were designed. Sex isn't just for pleasure, it's for pleasure in a committed relationship. The Christian life isn't just about killing your joy - but gonnorhea and STDs sure will kill your joy if you get them!

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Secrets to a healthy marriage

“Studies have shown that happy couples give compliments often. Offering a simple ‘thank-you’ is an easy way to show appreciation and make him feel significant,” says Todd Creager, licensed marriage therapist and author of The Long, Hot Marriage.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Things aren't always what they seem

Dating or courtship is supposed to be a wonderful time of getting to know each other, praying together, and seeing if marriage is right for you. Right? You're supposed to date / court a Christian man. And you would think dating someone who studied to be a pastor would be a safer bet...

Monday, July 18, 2011

Pornification of women

I'd like to thank Camerin Courtney for her chutzpa. She wrote about one of the very things I have given a great deal of thought about.

I made more than a few comments on Examiner.com on articles where the verbose Hollwood Men's Dating Examiner touted that if a man wants sex, he should be able to just ask for it without repercussions. I strongly disagree.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Dating a non-Christian

After many years of being single and everyone having the common experience of not dating anyone from church, it's bound to come up. Should you date a non-Christian if the opportunity arises? What if I said yes?

Friday, July 8, 2011

A woman is like a house

McCallum House 1882.  Mendocino, CA
I get really tired of people assuming that a woman does something to attract bad men. This is not the case. A woman is like a house and if she keeps her house well, many people are attracted to it. Not all of them have the best intentions. Let me explain...

What I really like in a man...

The men I have felt most attracted to have the following qualities:
  • Christian.
  • Kind heart.
  • Nitpicky about grammar.  (Corrects mine, not the other way around.)
  • Love music - all kinds, but especially unusual and experimental groups.
  • Reads news obsessively.
  • Multilingual.
  • Interested in fitness but not obsessive.
  • Artistically creative.
  • Interested in healthy living, but not obsessive.
  • Opens doors for me.
For me, it's not about game, I just know what I need to stay interested in someone.  I need someone smart, just like most smart guys like smart girls.  I know a few guys like this, but not enough of them.

If you know anyone who fits this...let me know.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Single Ladies - Life without a ring on it!

Well, darn. Where's my exciting single life? Where's my perfect wardrobe picked out by my stylist? Oh sure, sometimes I have lots of fun as a single, but seriously, now just about everyone will think we singles are all the same. Guys still think we all watch Sex and the City and worship expensive shoes.

Maybe this show will tank so that none of us have to worry about men having higher expectations of what they can get away with because a television show told them that's what we ladies like.

What would this show be like if it were called "Single Christian Ladies"?

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Wednesday, June 29, 2011

The Savvy response to lameness

My email response to Mario...

Over before it began

Well, I was freaking out over a few red flags, but I was still prepared to give Mario a shot. He wasn't. See his email to me by clicking on MORE.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

So, I gave him a chance

I decided to go out with Mario. The date went very well. We had a fun time and were able to talk about stuff. He's cute and has a baby face. he currently works as a graphic designer.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Learning what I really need is...

Different than what I thought. When you are used to being alone, you learn how to entertain yourself. I like to write, take photographs, and practice music. Many of these activities are ones that require silence or concentration, though I'm social and I like to talk to people too...

But now I've got this guy, Mario, I'm supposed to go out with. And I feel encroached upon. He called me twice today. He didn't even give me time to respond. Why would I call him back when I think he's got work in the evening?

I'm afraid that sort of creeps me out. I'm seeing a red flag warning. We haven't even met. Am I the only person like this?

Monday, June 20, 2011

The Set Up, family style (and family issues)

My grandmother had a heart attack a few months back and fell. She is improving a little, but not to the point that she can live on her own again. She went from assisted living where they just make meals for you to post-acute care meaning she doesn't do anything on her own. And now she has a roommate. And the roommate has family. And the roommate has a grandson my age...his mother says he looks like Mario Lanza...

Friday, June 10, 2011

King of the Bank Teller Jungle.

Was this guy running "game"?  I'm pretty sure he was.  Or at least, he thought he was.  I hate it when guys try to play me while he was working at my bank.
Savvy:  I came to find out about my account.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

The Prince of Black Frogs - no, the frogs won't change...

Kiss me!  I'm cute!
I've just had a revelation. People are strange. I know, I know, most people assume this to be true and take it for granted.  But I just realized it afresh when I met the Prince of Black Frogs.

I went to a Pet Store to get some supplies for my cat.  Some of it I had to return.  The checkout guy was superfriendly to everyone a quite attactive, plus, it was the second time seeing him so conversation flowed easily beyond the return.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Are you there God? It's me, Savvy

I thought I lost my tape recorder and I prayed really hard for you to help me find it. I hadn't seen it in a week and was pretty sure I lost it. Well, after one of these prayers, I looked under my new signed copy of Stuff White People Like and there it was, buried. I had looked in that bag before. How did I not see it? What a relief. I wish it were like that all the time, but it's not...

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Savvy mail call: Contacting my ex-girlfriend?

Howdy folks, every once in awhile someone writes to me asking me to help them with affairs of the heart. This is a question I hear all too commonly.

PC USA accepts ordination of gays and lesbians

The Presbyterian church has finally followed the Episcopal Church in accepting the ordination of out gays and lesbians. The controversy is causing quite a few churches to consider what they will do and if they will stay in the PC USA to be salt and light or if they will leave PCUSA for a more conservative faction, PCA. Unfortunately, many women will be upset by not being able to serve as deaconesses in the PCA. What's a church to do??

Monday, May 2, 2011

Royal Wedding, what was important to me

One of the exciting things, well for me, as a church goer was that the Queen permitted the Royal Wedding Program to be posted online and available for download. Rather than just watching a formal religious ceremony, I was able to participate in praying for a couple I don't really know but wish well. The program has photos and information about Westminster Abbey.

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Royal Wedding mania

I'm giving in to it. I can't help it. I don't know these people and I do not envy Kate Middleton as she has the whole world watching her. Papparazzi will follow her and her children for the rest of her life.

Why are women into it?

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Not pretty, really

What the last girl on the reel says is very meaningful and has a negative impact on the self-esteem of women and girls. I'm not the prettiest girl around or anything, sometimes people give me things, which is nice. But the dirty things men say when they find you attractive are really hurtful. It makes you feel that you must be very ugly because pretty girls are supposed to have a nice boyfriend and get married and have beautiful children. It just doesn't seem to work out that way.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Look what I found on Craigslist!

I thought I would give it a shot. A guy on Craigslist said it's really hard to date people at church, you know how it is... He also expressed that he liked music. I dropped him a line based on what he wrote.

Hi there,

have you ever taken a risk with the ladies at church? I'm just wondering. I've been hoping to meet someone for so long and the guys at church don't even look at us. It's so frustrating. I mean, maybe someone is worth a shot? If not, drop me a line.

I love indie music, a little Hillsong, a little classical... I write reviews and I sing. I have also taught voice and choir. I do drink socially, but I don't if it makes people uncomfortable.


Thursday, March 31, 2011

Recently the New York Times ran an article about the struggle many singles face as they attempt to find a post as a pastor only to discover most churches want married people.  Steve DeWitt weighed in by saying that his church in Crown Point, Indiana hired a single guy to be a pastor and it was a great blessing - he's the single guy.

Meanwhile the New York Times article maintained an attitude of "woe is me."  And Southern Baptist Al Mohler shared his thoughts.  So now I'm going to give my thoughts as well.  Please note that it's mainly directed at men, but there a few things for the ladies to think about...

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Where the boys are... complete with map

I found this map due to a discussion on a blog.  While it might be true that there are more single men in LA than in NYC, let's take a look at these single men.  Please click on read more to see the dots on the maps...

Manning Up: How the rise of women has turned men into boys, a new book

Oh no!  No wonder we are still single.  Societal upheaval was never a simple affair.  Apparently women in their 20s and 30s are out-earning men.

It's a real problem for dating.  No one knows what's expected.  (Great.)

Saturday, March 12, 2011

How to hold the door open for others, everyday etiquette

by Ross MacDonald
I've often been at the gym when someone tried to hold the door open for me before they walked through it, semi-blocking the path.  It just happened today at the bank where someone was standing in the path of the door rather than actually stepping aside with it.  In order to walk through the door, I would have to push the door myself to keep it from closing.  Since this is one of those things that isn't really taught anymore, it's leading to quite a few awkward moments at the door because of the ways the door swings. 

TIP:  Generally speaking when holding the door,  you open the door and walk with the door where it swings and stand with the door holding it open until people pass through.   It doesn't matter which way the door swings.  Sometimes you will walk through the door first depending on which way it swings.  Do NOT stand in the path of the door.

More tips...

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Sports-Themed Dating Show CASTING CALL!

I got a kick out of this!  Looking for love with a sports lover?  I have a great many female friends who cheer just as loud as the guys.  Some are taken by men who appreciate that.  Some are still available.  Maybe something could work out.  From what I can tell, many of the guys in the blogging world are not as social as men who are out there dating, but I could be wrong.  If I have any sports-loving girls reading, please think about this show and look for it to appear somewhere soon!  Click read more to find out more information.

Monday, March 7, 2011

Recessionista Smarts - consignment and other ways of selling old stuff

Yes, we've all looked in our closets and our bookselves and wondered how all of that stuff got there.  I looked at the prospect of giving these things away and felt the shock of how much money I had paid out--even for the things I bought on sale.  So I did what any reasonable person would do.  Nothing.  I let the stuff take up space in my closet and on my bookselves until...Something really amazing happened.  Amazon opened up their website to allow others to sell as a marketplace.  And a clothing consignment shop opened near me.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Women are superior in almost everything...

So says, "Man Down" a book with over 100 surveys about men and women.  Men go for broke, go for the home run.  Meanwhile women are more methodical.  The author says women are better drivers and hedge fund managers.  I've encountered terrible drivers of both sexes.

Do you agree? 
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Why I thank God I'm single, some very real reasons to rejoice

A friend of mine posted happy brithday to his deceased wife.  I realized that I miss my husband, too.  However, I don't have him in my life.  Since I don't, I thank God I'm free from the following kind of men.  I want a healthy relationship and it seems like there are alot of people out there who are not healthy.

I'm glad I'm free from a man who beats my children and myself.  Tyler Perry's mom wasn't so lucky, neither was Tyler Perry.  There were a few guys who wanted to date me who showed signs of being extremely angry very early on and I passed because I know what's coming.  I talked to a woman last night who divorced her husband when he became violent after starting anti-depressant treatment and discoving how deep his alcoholism was.  That being said...

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Recessionista tips and tricks, let there be Big Crumbs! (Just like Bing Cashback!)

I just got my first payout from BigCrumbs. Whenever I buy something online, I check to see if there is a link on Big Crumbs first. For reals, people. This is like Bing Cashback. You know you cried when it died. I sure did. The new Bing program promised to be better and it sure was annoying.

Big Crumbs came in handy very recently. I wanted my favorite anti-perspirant which was not available in regular stores. I didn't want to have to search every Target until kingdom come. So I bought it from Drugstore.com.  It was on sale PLUS I got cashback.

Monday, February 28, 2011

Secret Millionaire - finally some quality TV

Christian values in a secular TV show. If you're like me, you're a bit tired of all the bad television out there. So much of it is poorly scripted, dirty-minded and completely lacking heart.

Here is a show that I think will have Christians and non-Christians talking about positive values and the importance of helping others--no matter whether the point of view is sacred or secular. Here is a preview of the show:

Monday, February 21, 2011

We are the Urban Shakers. Reflections on sects and sex.

The Shaking Quakers or Shakers were one of a wide variety of religious sects which propagated during the early history of our country. The United States of America quickly became a haven for some serious oddballs, even in the years of being colonies. I imagine an adviser going to King George and The Archbishop of Canterbury (who is in charge of the Church of England) saying,

Advisor: Your Majesty, Your Grace, we aren't quite sure what to do with this group. Shakers they call them.
Archbishop of Canterbury: They are a threat to our state-endorsed religion and our holy sacraments. What do you recommend?
Advisor: Your Majesty, Your Grace, with your mandate we can send them to the colonies.
King George: Right-e-o. We can still tax them.
Archbishop of Canterbury: And don't have to worry about their strange religion?
Together: Bonus! Let's do it!

Saturday, February 19, 2011

MIA Bloggers and stuff

There are links on other people's blogs that lead to abandoned blogs. The last date of entry might be a year to two years ago. Some have even been deleted. Captain Singleness anyone?

I started looking through the blogs I follow and noticed how many of them stopped posting.

Some of it might be the immediacy of things like Facebook and Twitter as microblogs.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Friday, February 4, 2011

When God doesn't write your love story, Satan does

I attended a classy film screening recently. The film was recently produced by Clint Eastwood about the life of Dave Brubeck. While Dave Brubeck could not attend, his bass player of many years was there. So was the other producer, and a quintet of young men dedicated to studying jazz and the works of Dave Brubeck.

For those who think rock music has the corner on evil people, so did I. But at least the one time I got hit on my a musician, he was polite and not too dsigusting by comparison to this sick jerk I met who calls himself an artist.  He thought I was laughing because I was having a good time.  I can't even repeat some of the things he said to me, they were that explicit.  SICK, SICK, SICK!!!  (So you want to see what I emailed him?)

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Save lots of money with this Cashback program

Alright people, why are you waiting?  I, the smart recessionista, am saving money by joining this program and getting Cashback on purchases with legit websites.  If you tried Bing Cashback and loved it, this is the same idea.

I got a great deal on contact lenses, shopping for whatever things you might shop for online.  Even ebay.

Thanks for reading! Please leave a comment!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Love does not conquer all, 7 compatibility areas to consider

Looks like the world is teaching the same things us Christians have known about all along. Religious differences are a part of long-term incompatibility.

Dating experts outline seven match areas to consider:

1. Physical appearance (duh! But that's just one of seven...)
While physical appearance and attraction draw two people together at first, these aspects will affect the rest of their lives. If working out and staying fit is important to you, will it bum you out if your mate doesn’t share your quest for rock-hard abs? (Seriously, it's like favorite bands for me.)

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Let's talk about being Celibate in the City

Does being celibate keep you from harm or harm your potential to have relationships? Let's talk. I had to make my post a blog entry because it was getting really long.
Anon #10 (at 44) "the law of chastity can and does protect us from harmful and unhealthy relationships. However, it does so in the same way that abstaining from eating food will protect us from food poisoning, or abstaining from ever leaving our houses will protect us from drive-by shootings."

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Celibate In The City: The singleness problem cuts across all denominations

One of the blogs I follow is called Celibate In The City, a blog about the trials and tribulations of a single Mormon girl. Apparently they have the same problems in the Mormon Church that the rest of us Protestants have been complaining about.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Balls and Chains: The Violent Femmes' Gordon Gano makes a decent proposal

Gordon Gano with the Femmes. 
I've mentioned Violent Femmes before.  And here I bring you a short treatise on marriage written by Gordon Gano, lead singer of Violent Femmes.  I couldn't help laughing at a few things. He has since divorced, which is unfortunate. He's the short, dorky but cute one on the left. -Savvy

First, a disclaimer: Anything that can be construed as advice in this article will be bad advice. Anything that can be taken as a truth will be a bad truth. I hope I can slip in some lies, but I can't promise that I'll succeed. And I'll write about marriage without once mentioning the word "love."

Men are jerks.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, Proverbs 13:12

I imagine the heart becomes even sicker when it fears that desire will never come to pass. Here is the verse in a few different translations with commentary. I enjoy the different shades of meaning which come from slightly different translations.

New International Version (©1984)
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

New Living Translation (©2007)
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.

King James Bible
Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but [when] the desire cometh, [it is] a tree of life.

Unbelievable love story in a totally bad way

I'm single. You know that. I hold to the idea that God has someone for me and when I marry that person I make a lifetime commitment to them. I would not betray my spouse. I would not run off with another even if I thought they were even better for me. What this couple did is just plain wrong on so many levels.

It's one thing to leave your spouse for another (bad), but to leave your spouse and have an article written about it...evil. For that article...

Monday, January 10, 2011

Earn some cashback while shopping online

Finally something LEGIT! Remember how Bing Cashback gave actual cashback for purchases online and put real money into your Paypal account? Finally I found someone who made something legit and am asking you to check it out. No spam involved. I've got big bucks coming my way from buying a printer online at Office Depot and then picking it up in the store. Just check it out with no obligation.


Friday, January 7, 2011

Sick (again/still)

My cough is coming back. I've been sick for about a month and this is killing me. 3 rounds of antibiotics and here we go again. Last we I caught a stomach virus. I've already been feeling a little depressed. This just makes it worse.

Don't know about you, but I've been doubting the Lord in all things. Seems like nothing is quite right and most of my prayers go unanswered. Someone told me I should join their church because their pastor is anointed and God will work a miracle. Sounds like a line. I've been through that before.

God can't work whereever you are? And if he can work where ever you are, why does it seem like he doesn't?

What keeps you going when you feel that way?

Rude people

I had dinner with someone I didn't know so that I would have company for a mystery shop. I do that on occasion. I did mention some of my frustrations about dating. But then left them behind. After dinner we sat at the bar and I ended up talking a bit to a man who sat next to us. I teased him about about having had to move my designer purse for him to have a seat and that my purse felt like it deserved its own seat. It was amusing, but that is all. I know how a man behaves if he is interested, and he wasn't. He was fun to talk to just a little. Before you start judging, the bar visit was part of the shop. Then...

Last night I dreamt somebody loved me

Monday, January 3, 2011

Ir-Relevant Magazine strikes again on dating

I'd really like to know what the person who wrote/condensed (Shauna Niequist from her book Bittersweet) this article was THINIKING. I mean, really??


Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from the ones that don’t give you everything you need. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.

"everything you need"
Whoever expects a relationship will "give you everything you need" really needs to learn that relationships are about giving to each other. Not only that, this person recommends just "walking away."

Looking at this in the context with the next sentence, it becomes even more alarming. "Some of the most life-shaping decisions you make in this season will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without."

I'm not with this person at ALL. Most of my life, I've been walking away from relationships where the man was clearly NOT good enough. He didn't call when he said he would, he spoke about me negatively, he spoke about intimate details of our relationship with his friends, his friends made me very uncomfortable, he was mean, he hated women, he spoke negatively about an ex.

Quite frankly, when a friend of mine left her "good enough" boyfriend, everyone was upset with her. She explained it this way, "He wants to get married, but I just think that marriage should make you want to be a better person." I think she was being unrealistic. She dumped a great guy, the kind who I wished liked me. Will she regret breaking up with Mr. Good Enough while searching for Mr. Can't-live-without?

You can actually live without just about everybody. I've never met a man who I couldn't walk away from. But then, I've also not dated anyone where the interest was mutual who I considered good enough. And by good enough enough, I mean they must treat you right. Good on paper is not good enough if he can't treat you right. She goes on to mention being with the "wrong person." If they are the "wrong person" perhaps it might have been better to say that they are "NOT good enough."

The good enough guys are there but, I guess they don't think I'm good enough. Either that or I'm only good enough while they are chasing their pipe dreams and "can't-live-withouts." I'm a 6 and they want a 10. I think one day this generation will sincerely regret their stupidity.

You may read their tripe here.

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Sunday, January 2, 2011

Honest talk about being single

Some Facebook friends decided to start a group encouraging people to date and someone started a discussion about dating. I'm in! (Names have been deleted to protect the wide-eyed innocents, semi-innocent, and completely guilty. The last comment is, of course, mine as were a few others. :)  Can you tell which ones?

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