So the guy I was talking to a few weeks ago when out with some friends goes to my church. And the band is supported by people I go to church with, so it's a group that I feel relatively safe getting to know better.
So, I found out that one of the guys I met didn't mean anything at all by saying, "I need to see you again."
Wow. Not too many people talk that way to anyone. And then I saw him at church. so I thought it was possible that he might mean it.
He: Hey, so when am I gonna see you again.
Me: Well, that's up to you?
He: That's the best answer ever!!
He: So, what's the best thing that's happened to you this week?
Me: Seeing you again.
He: You little charmer! That's the best answer I ever heard!!! Did you hear what she said?
Me: Well, it's true.
He: I love it! So am I gonna see you the next time we go to see the band?
Me: Will you be there?
He: Yes. I'm a regular.
Me: Then yes, for sure.
He: You little charmer!
In any case. I gave him my card since he was at my church I thought maybe he was a Mr. Alright. As we left for the evening I asked:
Me: I really liked what you said to me last time.
Me: Do you remember what you said?
He: Um, no. What did I say?
Me: You said, 'I need to see you again.'
He: Oh my gosh, I'm such a charmer!!! Scooore!!
Me: Yeah, well I am too.
We both laughed, said goodnight and I figured he now had my phone number and if he called that meant he might be interested. I thought that would be cool.
The first day I hoped.
The next day I thought about it.
The third day I realized he didn't mean it.
The fourth day I realized I'd best forget about it.
The seventh day, I blogged about it.
And here's the thing, he's not the best looking guy, but if he said those things and he meant them, then I thought he was worth a shot. I liked how I saw him treat his friends. But when it came to meaning what he said to girls, I guess he really didn't. Or perhaps he just has no idea how his words impact people who are lonely and really want to believe that there could be someone out there.
So many disappointments. I've got people lambasting me for not being submissive. I'll submit to my dad, to a pastor who is teaching right doctrine, to my doctor if I believe the treatment is correct--but I'm having a hard time finding a man who is husband material to submit to. And remember, this was at church. CHURCH!!!!!
On the other hand. Something was accomplished. I KNOW he's not really interested. I KNOW not to take him seriously in the future.
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